We have lost the connection. My generation has lost the connection to simply “Being”. When we simply “Be” we find our authentic selves.
Some of those unexpected ways we lose the connection and meet other troubled minds is through strife, struggle, and pain. These realities teach us to come back to the authencity of who we are. We learn to refuse to entertain the easily swayed emotional instability of others. We understand that chaotic minds are not simply the result of a person’s own doing, but the product of their social structure. However, the in ability to control themselves and their emotions has to do with the lack of personal development within oneself—immaturity.
In some countries, young people bomb themselves, beat their wives, or become involved in gangs and cartels because they feel the need to Be Great and to have more, and more. Their anger toward others is the ultimate demonstration of that outward rage. It’s unfortunate, they have this rage simply because everyone else does. It is the most prevalent mindset.
Americans are no different. The outward display of things gives us no choice but to feel the desire to take and acquire more. It is the mindset that is prevalent of the times. Instead of the bombing ourselves we commit social suicide by placing our careers and professional life above that of family and friends, or become depressed and suicidal when it doesn’t work out the way we want. We become so obsessed over the fantasy of the high powered career and the idea of a perfect marriage or relationships that we forget the realities that must ensue. We feel that the steps to get to the top of anything are already beneath us. I hear comments like “why should I do that” or “I am better than that”. The dangers of instant gratification is all too great that you have recent college graduates thinking they will become the next CEO of a company…in a year or so of starting work. Some people going to the workplace are demanding a 50k salary with only a few extracurricular college activities and an internship. Just because your friend got lucky, had an in demand degree, or better yet–knew someone does not mean it is going to work out like that for all. For all you know, it may not work out for your friend. Then what, will they have saved or spent all of that wonderful salary? I won’t even get started on the idea of a perfect marriage or perfect relationships—that will be a new post another day. But it really is about how much love you project to the other person. Both parties have to find some sort of equilibrium among personalities. You learn to accept the flaws of one another—especially if that person truly is a good person when you strip away the baggage. But if you cannot accept it, or if that person is emotionally damaged beyond repair or lets the chronic dissatisfaction of life get in between you, move on! You will thank me later. I have had to learn this the hard way, but some buckets needed to be kicked to the curb—so to speak.
Some people look at what others have and hear the comments people make and garner their sense of worth from that. These are the kind of people on Lexapro or other anxiety or depression medications or worse try to commit suicide. Their chaotic mind is so full of ‘what ifs’ and ‘if onlys’ that they do not know where to turn. They begin to project that anger on to others only in the end to cause their own unfortunate demise.
All the “shit” that we build up and label as important is not as important as we think. The ability to feel satisfaction should not be contingent on the amount of money in the bank, the number of friends you have, and the new Fendi bag your bff just got from her boyfriend. You really have to watch and be careful around people who have a chronic dissatisfaction with life. You can love them, but they will take you for a ride. Guard yourself. Troubled minds must find their equilibrium and contain their emotional challenges. Come back to the authentic self and there you will find the most complete sense of peace. You will not get frustrated over simple minded things.
I’ve learned that no amount of prayer and church going is going to help a person unwilling to do the work on themselves with some consistency, and that a chaotic mind is not due to social economic status. Remember, our authentic self is patient and kind. We do not envy. We do not boast. We are not proud. We do not dishonor others. We are not self-seeking. We are not easily angered. We keep no record of wrongs. We do not delight in wrong-doings but rejoice with the truth. We always protect, always trust, always hope, and always persevere. Our authentic selves never fail because at our core, we are that extension of the Great I AM that reveals itself in the most unexpected of ways to simply remind us to just “Be”. For atheists, you are connected to that Great Nothing-ness,that brought you into “Being”. Honor that.